Instead of focusing on what is wrong with someone. Why not focus on ways to amplify the greatness they already. You don’t have to fix everything about someone. Just enough where they stand out in their authentic self.
You can do a lot more work by focusing on the existing positive qualities someone has. Plus, it’s easier on the mind to think in terms of positive. Note: This is note an avoidance tactic. This is simply a shift of thinking.
Train your mind to see the goods in people instead of the bad. Because the more bad you see in other more you will amplify those bitter weeds.
That’s why when you train your mind to see the positive in others it will be a lot easier. Focusing on the negative creates more negatives. Remember you choose what you wish to see. And this is also in combination with the law of attraction. What you think is reflected back to you.
One thing that can help you improve your odds, is by polishing up your social skills. See what cool people talk about, and how they act. Get a feel of their “swag” and try to absorb it into your personality while still being authentic. You can still be authentic and learn new ways of being. But, i suggest you do this in private, avoid letting other people see you practice new behaviors. Because it will come across as “in congruent” because you keep changing your persona.
While the shadow is great to be unique and all. Remember, we are ultimately here to enrich the lives of others and make other people not worse. If they feel worse, that is a sign we are not doing our jobs right.