The better you can get at connecting realities the better you will do at making deeper and long lasting connection.
Most people are only capable of seeing life from their own perspective which is why their relationships never work.
Most people think others should provide for them or give them their needs.
But, in order for you to get what you want you have to give people what they want.
And this can be literally anything(time, appreciation, compliments, etc).
As social species we are inclined to help one another.
But, we ALL have put our needs first.
This is the basic rules of survival and it makes perfect sense.
Why surrender or sacrifice yourself for the needs of others?
There is no virtue in being a martyr. There is no virtue in abandoning what you want for the sake of other people.
And this goes for all people.
Everyone at some point or another will become more selfish. And this is a good form of selfishness. Why spend time with people who waste your time? Why do things for free for people do so little for you? We live in a filled with people why should people you give the time of day? Why should they put your needs over theirs?
For anyone to think others should put their needs over themselves is selfish. Quite ironic when you think about it. They say other people are selfish while also being selfish. Some people think that others should take care of them as if they are entitled to free benefits without having to do anything for it.
This is why the golden rule is if you want others to do something for you have to do something for them.
People won’t just follow people for no reason. There has to do be a potential benefit for them, and if they don’t see the benefit then they won’t follow.
However, if you can make it crystal clear to them in a way that can understand and moves their emotions you can get people to do anything you want.
And the better you connect worlds the more success you will be at getting your point across.
While you might make sense in your head, making it make sense to others is a total different thing.
If you cannot effectively convey your idea to others and in a way that moves them they will never listen.
If it was so easy to get people to do anything no one would really have this problem.
Funnily enough, most people can’t even get themselves to do the things they want to do, yet they somehow expect others SHOULD be able to do it.
No one ever follow you unless they understand what you are saying, are emotionally moved, and/or think they are somehow going to benefit from it.
People think they can get free stuff out of thin air and others should do something for something is just plain selfish or lazy.
They think others should give them stuff, but, what’s in for them?
And they blame others for not giving them what they want, without even considering what they are even asking. They either are ignorant or too selfish to see their own flaws.
You will find this everywhere, everyone thinks they should be the self-appointed leader telling others what to do. And no one even knows why, they just think they should just be the boss.
But, whatever you want others to do you have to lead them in a way they want to follow.
And never expect others people to things you wouldn’t do.
People are not so foolish to just follow anyone or anything.
High level communication is required to get others to do what you want, and even then, it’s still not guaranteed.
The better you can communicate to others in a way they can comprehend and understand they better and successful you will be.