Part of socializing is we talk about stuff, which entails pieces of who we are and what we do.
People judge us based on who they think we are and what we project onto them.
They are gaining information on who we are based on what we wear, say, do, etc.
Unfortunately, telling the wrong people your business will caused them to gossip or say negative things about you behind you or behind your back.
With toxic people you really shouldn’t be exposing yourself much to them at all, but, if you do, be sure to keep the info you give them to a min. because they will use anything you say against you.
The more comfortable you are with people the more you can reveal with them.
Generally, it best to give people small pieces of who you are and gradually reveal info about yourself slowly over time.
From my personal experience there are a few things that can happen:
1) You give too much info and they have a negative impression on you
2) You don’t give enough info about yourself so they don’t know what to do with you
3) You tell them about yourself then reveal stuff later, which, will contradict their previous views of you which will cause them to lose interest because you don’t fit who they thought you were
The right idea is to send people a practical demonstration of who you are, but, not too much, slower is better, but sometimes, too slow can make you seem boring, shy, etc.
Not everyone is your friend, not everyone deserves access to information they shouldn’t know.
Which unfortunately conflicts with the way we socialize.
Socializing is about being in the moment and simply enjoying the present for it is and being natural.
However, certain people, can interrupt the flow of the social dance because they are not really your friends or they really are not interested in you and just going along for the ride.
It’s hard to be natural and real with people you have to constantly be on guard with.
If this is ever a question, then, perhaps you are not surrounding yourself with the right types of people.
It is possible, that you may not be demonstrating yourself in the best light for people to really see your worth.
Ideally, you develop a natural talent for people who are most suitable and compatible for your life and what type you want to live.
The wrong people can damage and leave you broken.
The right people in your life can help you see the good and make life more enjoyable.
But, part of surviving is understanding both sides of the spectrum the light-dark.
Too much good and we cannot properly see the negative in others.
Too much bad and we blind ourselves to what is good, and only see the worse in others.
A practical mix is ideal, a healthy mindset that allows you to see people the good in others while also not letting others to negatively affect your life.
In a perfect society, we probably wouldn’t need to worry about all of this, but we don’t live in a perfect world.
Which is why, understanding human nature is crucial for survival.
The more comfort and trust you feel towards the more you can reveal.
The less comfort and trust you feel about someone the less personal and sensitive info you should reveal.