I don’t go out often nowadays but I will tell you this, I don’t have the same patience as I did when I was younger.
Today I know what I like and don’t like so I stay away from certain types of people and energy.
I have one rule for my relationships and that is DON’T BE ANNOYING and Let’s Have Fun
If you are constantly telling me what to do you are annoying.
If you are constantly trying to tell me what to think you are annoying.
If you always have to be the leader of every social situation you are annoying.
If I always have to compromise myself for your wellbeing you are annoying.
If you make me feel worse about myself for whatever reason you are annoying.
If you are not okay with these terms – then the door is over there! If you can’t follow one rule I don’t know what to say.
Personally, I don’t care what their reasons or logical excuses for why I need to tolerate their BS.
If you are annoying, you are out of my life.
The people I get along with the most are friendly, easy-going, compassionate, loving, fun, happy, understanding, and respectful.
These people I allow into my life give me the space I need to express myself and grow in my own time.
They are not giving me advice, they are not trying to change for whatever reason.
If they have something to say they think can help me, I am open to listening.
But it really is about what type of energy is the advice coming from as opposed to the advice itself.
If the advice is done lovingly with respect. I won’t get annoyed and if the advice is good I will take the advice.
If the advice is not that makes me feel disrespected for any type of reason. I stop listening. Sometimes, I get so annoyed I even stop talking for a while. Because who are these people to be giving you advice like this? When they give you advice in a disrespectful they are saying they are better than you. They are saying I am superior to you and you are inferior to me. They are saying my opinion is better than yours. They are saying listen to me don’t listen to yourself.
And let me tell you something, advice given in a disrespectful way is one of the most ANNOYING things in the world for all the reasons I listed above and more.
When I socialize with people I am going to socialize with the intention of having fun.
Anything outside of a fun interaction is a waste of my time.
When I want advice from someone, I will ask for advice.
I don’t appreciate people giving me unsolicited advice. I am not a kid, sorry! I can think for myself.
I learn from people all the time that is how I became so wise. But, I never learned from disrespectful people.
I learned from mature, wise, and friendly people.
I learned from books and learned how to think differently.
I learned through trial and error.
In fact, I love learning.
But, I will not be disrespected.
I don’t care how much money you have in your bank account.
If I didn’t ask for your advice, don’t give it.
I don’t care if you are the f*cking president, if I didn’t ask for your advice don’t give it.
I don’t care if you are Jesus fucking Christ, if I didn’t ask for your advice don’t give it.
I don’t care how spiritual you think you are, if I didn’t ask for your advice don’t give it. And if you are spiritual you should already know not to give unsolicited advice. A spiritual person who forces their ideas on others is really just an egomaniac who practices spirituality.
When I go to interact with people it’s to have fun.
If learning happens then learning happens.
But, I will not be disrespected.
I am not going outside my house to be disrespected.
I am not traveling X amount of hours just to be disrespected that is a waste of my time.
So what is all the point of this?
The point is to know what you are willing to tolerate and what you are not willing to tolerate.
Once the red flags start occurring, know it’s time to leave.
Unless there is a special reason for staying, just walk away.
I sometimes stay in certain relationships longer, if I want to heal a particular person’s patterns.
I am less charitable with my time and energy now.
People will waste your time and destroy your soul unless you are prepared and ready.
That is why I only focus on the internal world now.
Time spent within is never a waste of time.
But, time spent on the external is unpredictable.
Learning in the external is dangerous for your spirit.
That is how traumas are formed.
Traumas are created by interacting with other people in the external world.
That’s how you learn not to trust other people by interacting with other people in the external world.