Not everything is personal.
Some people are merely reacting to overlay of what they are seeing on the screen.
The subconscious forms meaning even when not aware of it.
Thus, people are reacting to what is being said, but often it is not personal.
Sometimes, they do target their energy towards the person, but often it’s just their relationship with that part.
It’s important if you are to be in the spot light you give people space to give their input.
This doesn’t mean you accept everything as objective truth but instead their subjective-objective truths.
Not taking things personally can be challenging because we are also looking at what people say and unconsciously looking at what it means about us.
But, sometimes something doesn’t mean anything to YOU. A lot of times it’s just saying their relationship with that part.
This doesn’t mean don’t look at what they are saying as wrong. But, get a general feedback of your audience and see what the general consensus is.
Finding trends if a great way to see what is objective reality.
This does NOT mean all trends are true, but, at least you can some data on what a lot of people feel about something.
Then you can make your own personal decision on what is true.
If you see a lot of negative feedback then perhaps change the way you phrase something or keep it to yourself.
Not everything needs to be put on blast especially on social media.
Remember, people are looking at your content and they will react positive or negative.
If you are to gain popularity, make sales, etc. then you have allow for this because you want people to engage with your content be it good or bad.
There is a phrase that “there is no such thing as bad publicity.”
And in the context of gaining popularity a lot of times this is true.
You have to allow people to react however way they are going to react and not control their reactions.
This is definitely difficult because we all want positive feedback.
But, if you can detach yourself emotionally you can see the truth behind what is being said.
And once more sometimes it’s not about you sometimes it’s about them.
If someone does say something to offend you then feel to set a boundary about what was said.
This can be done in multiple forms.
Find your inner truth about what needs to be said about how you feel and your boundaries.
Yes, this is very tricky, but when done right creates a win-win atmosphere for everyone to express their unique self.
The end result is it feels fun for everyone because everyone is being who they are in that moment in time. We cannot force people to be anything that which they are not.
This does not mean we are passive bystanders and take non-sense, but, we also strive for a healthy balance of allowing people to express themselves.